America is divided on many fronts – racially, politically, socioeconomically… There is a lot of pain, hate, anger, and polarization in our country. We have heard many times on Grace in 30 about the importance of proximity and listening to tearing down the walls that separate us. Tonight, we’re joined by two very different men – a Jewish man who grew up the son of hippies and went on to work as a civil servant, and a Christian man who grew up as a military brat and went on to work in education and the food service industry. They have joined forces to provide an example of how to eliminate the barriers that separate us, starting with the age-old barrier between Jew and Gentile. Eric Teitelman and Jed Robyn talk about the importance of intentionally bringing people of differing beliefs together and encouraging them to empathize with and love one another.
Back in 1996, two men launched a mentoring program in an underserved Southeast DC neighborhood where far too many youths grow up without appropriate role models. Twenty years later, the Dream Center opened a new facility just behind its original home in the Southeast White House with the goal of encouraging local children and adults to dream big while receiving a range of services designed to help them honor their God-given potential.
Today we’re joined by Ernest Clover, the Director of both the Dream Center and Southeast White House. Born and raised in Detroit, Michigan, Ernest began volunteering at the Southeast White House in 2007 while serving as an intern on Capitol Hill. His experience left such an impression on him that he decided to return as a mentor after completing his master’s degree seven years ago, and he has been there ever since. Ernest joins us to talk about the Dream Center’s approach of letting the community inform what services they provide, and the new facility they opened in 2016.
My guess is that most of our listeners have heard about the sexual assault case involving junior varsity football players at Damascus Senior High – an assault that one prosecutor described as “astonishingly cruel.” While it’s easy to dismiss such occurrences as extreme and rare, it does beg the question, is this evidence of a much broader culture of abuse and bullying in our schools?
Tonight’s guest is here to answer that question. Just a few years ago, Knott Kavanaugh was the target of never-ending abuse at the hands of fellow students at a Fairfax County middle school. The bullying got so bad, and the teacher apathy so persistent, that he attempted suicide at age 13. After Knott’s mom pulled him out of the school and became a home schooler, Knott wrote a book about his experiences as part of a class assignment. When he saw the affect his story had on other bullied children and their unaware parents, he knew he could make a difference by sharing it with people – and he’s here to do that tonight. We’re also joined by Knott’s mom who will give us a parent’s perspective on bullying.
Tonight’s guest, Gabe Segoine, was born in Maui and grew up in California. At age 19, he moved back to Maui to live what he calls the dream surfer life, but he realized after six years that he was miserable. Following a series of life-changing events, Gabe found himself in North Korea where he was working to bring clean water, heating coal, medicine, and other necessities to its people. When he saw some waves he asked about surfing and the rest, as they say, is history. Gabe has been to North Korea 18 times since that original trip and founded Love North Korea Ministries, a faith-based nonprofit dedicated to helping the people of North Korea improve their lives – and surf! He recently published a book about his experiences entitled, Surfing North Korea: And Other Stories from Inside. Gabe joins us to talk about the love he’s developed for the people of North Korea, the challenges Westerners face working in their country, and misconceptions about North Koreans, their government, and its relationship with the West.
Russ Kloskin grew up in a family marked by violence, drug use, and poverty. At age seven his mom got him high on marijuana, and at age 11 she took him with her to perform a burglary. At age 12 he was arrested for the first time, and at age 15 he was arrested for armed robbery and tried and convicted as an adult. Russ would spend 27 of the next 35 years in prison where he became a member of the Aryan Brotherhood of Texas, one of the most violent white supremacist prison gangs in the U.S., briefly rising to the level of President during the late 90s. During a 7-year stint in solitary confinement, Russ began to see the anger and rage that had come to fill his heart and radically changed his life. He joins us to talk about his experiences and the work he is now doing to help prisoners successfully re-integrate with society when they are released.
A caravan is headed to our Southern border, and it’s filled with criminals and terrorists bent on invading our country. At least that’s what the highest level of our government is telling us. But is that the real story? Tonight, we’ll get a report from the front lines of the immigrant surge that started four years ago. We’re joined by Sister Norma Pimentel, the executive director of Catholic Charities of the Rio Grande Valley in Brownsville, Texas who helped organize their response to the 2014 surge of Central Americans seeking asylum in the United States. Sister Pimentel is a 2018 Hispanic Heritage Award recipient, an award established by the Reagan administration, and the 2018 recipient of the Laetare Medal at Notre Dame University’s commencement ceremony honoring her work with migrants and refugees, the highest and oldest award given to a U.S. Catholic each year. Sister Pimentel joins us to talk about her experiences working with refugees and seeing God himself in them.
Tonight’s guest is well-versed in the false dichotomies between the political right and left – the lie that we must choose one side at the expense of the other when addressing issues like the rights of the unborn and the rights of women, domestic job security and immigration, and systematic racism and supporting our servicemen. He points out that Christians have allowed themselves to be divided by the ideologies of men instead of uniting under the banner of being made in the image of God.
Moses Lee is an ordained minister who works as the Director of OneU DC, the college ministry of Redeemer Church of Arlington, focused on serving the students at American University. Moses joins us to talk about the origin of these false choices, what we can do to take away their power, and what he has learned working to serve and share the gospel with college students.
About 19 years ago, Mitch Tuchman was sitting in a McDonalds when he saw a school bus unloading a group of severely disabled teenagers. The sight and proximity of the teens rattled him, and he wept. Two years before, he and his wife had given birth to a disabled boy named Jack and the teens provided a glimpse into their future. Mitch joins us to talk about the many lessons he has since learned from Jack, and the company that grew out of his motivation to ensure that Jack would never become a financial burden to his siblings or others.
Tonight’s guest, Eric Teitelman, grew up in a Jewish family in the 1960s and 70s. His parents were hippies who lived in places like Berkeley, California and Bat Yam, Israel, and they were no strangers to communes, nudist colonies, and kibbutzes. He also watched his parents struggle through issues like mental illness, unfaithfulness, and abandonment. Through all of the craziness, though, Eric had a vision of God as a loving father, and that knowledge made him determined to live a different kind of life than his parents. Thirty-plus years later, Eric is a happily married family man who works as an Engineering Chief in the Fairfax County Department of Transportation. He also volunteers his time with various local ministries including OneHeartDC, a group working to tear down the barriers that separate DC Metro area churches. He joins us to talk about his experiences growing up, how he was able to avoid the mistakes his parents made, and OneHeartDC’s upcoming Washington Prayer Gathering on the National Mall on Saturday, September 22nd.
Between 2009 and 2016, nearly 600 park rangers were killed in the line of duty in Africa by men poaching elephant tusks and rhino horns. In Namibia, where poaching was seen as the only way some families could stay fed, the government instituted a program in the 1980s where they began to convert poachers into “game guards.” It was a novel idea, and as the program matured the government began forming community conservancies where communities were given the rights to the animals on their land in exchange for agreeing to look after them. Today the program is seen as a huge success with the populations of cheetahs, black rhinos, and elephants all increasing dramatically.
This is the sort of project that today’s guest, crime-fighting conservationist Jessica Graham, works on. Jessica spent the past ten years working first at the US State Department where she created an environmental crime program; and most recently at INTERPOL, the world’s largest international police organization. Jessica recently returned to the U.S. from France to start a consulting business focused on environmental and international security issues. She joins us to talk about the intersection of conservation and law enforcement work, and to share insights she has gained traveling to over 40 countries.
All of us have our fair share of challenges at work, including working with people we don’t get along with and perhaps don’t like. What would you do if you found out that one of your coworkers was actively trying to get you fired? Would you mount a counter campaign and maybe even try to get them fired? Or would you take the high road and ignore them, letting your work speak for itself? Is there another option? What would you say to the idea of actively trying to make that person’s day better every day without regard to how they react – perhaps even working to get them promoted? Does this sound ridiculous?
Today we’re joined by John McGowan, the Lead Pastor at Restoration City Church in Arlington – a four-year-old church that meets in Gunston Middle School. John joins us to talk about the prevalence of un-grace, the importance of countering it, and what grace looks like in its most powerful form.
The U.S. prison system is broken and badly in need of reform. One case in point is the recidivism rate – the percentage of prisoners who return to the prison population after their release. Despite the fact that one of the primary goals of the system is rehabilitation, one study showed that over half of the people released from prison returned within one year; two-thirds returned after three years; and three-quarters returned within five years.
Today we’re talking to Rickey Brown, the Founder and CEO of Transitional Associates, a non-profit he established in 2014 to provide services to men, women and juveniles entering and exiting the prison system. Rickey joins us to talk about his passion for prison reform, what he has learned working both inside and outside of the system, and his perspective on why things are broken – and how he’s working to improve them.
One in three women worldwide (and one in four men) will be the victim of intimate partner violence in their lifetime. In America, someone is sexually assaulted every 98 seconds. Arlington County residents are not immune to these issues. Today we’re hosting Samantha Clarke and Christina Cole from Doorways for Women and Families, an Arlington-based non-profit that has provided a pathway out of violence and homelessness to thousands of our neighbors over the past 40 years. Sam and Christy join us to talk about the services Doorways provide on behalf of Arlington County, and the impact the program has had on both its clients and volunteers.
Everybody lies. Dishonesty is major problem that effects every area of our lives including our families, workplaces, communities, and world. Today’s guest is an authority on honesty who has helped numerous businesses dramatically improve performance through open, honest communications. Steven Gaffney joins us to talk about the most significant form of dishonesty, the path to improving communications, and how to sustain a change for the better.
Chef Johnny Scott loves to teach young people the importance of developing workforce skills, an entrepreneurial spirit, and overcoming the shame of their past. Johnny honed his cooking skills working by his mother’s side in the kitchen; preparing food for fellow inmates in jail; and while touring the globe with his Air Force wife. In addition to running his Mission Kitchen catering business, Johnny can be found helping at-risk youth at the DC Juvenile Detention Center, The DC Dream Center, and The Boys Probation House in Fairfax County, as well as teaching healthy cooking classes at the USO Warrior and Family Center at Fort Belvoir. Join us as Johnny shares highlights and lessons learned from a life serving delicious food to others.
About two years ago, I [Ed] experienced a major flood in my condo after a contractor triggered a sprinkler head. As I feverishly worked to stem the flow of water and save my belongings, I was struck by the fact that only two people dove in uninvited to help – a couple from Costa Rica. I was initially upset by this. Then I realized I hardly knew my neighbors and, even worse, I hadn’t made the effort to get to know them. I asked myself, would I have immediately dived in and helped one of them if they were going through the same thing? The unfortunate answer is, probably not.
Tonight’s guests are working to address this issue. Mike and Michele Husfelt are part of a ministry called Apartment Life that works to develop deep relationships and a sense of community and service among neighbors in apartment complexes. Mike is doing this in addition to his work as an Air Force Chaplain, including assignments in Afghanistan and at Arlington Cemetery. Michele is doing it after raising five children and volunteering on military bases around the world, and while currently working at Northstar Church Network. They join us to talk about the importance and joy of knowing and helping our neighbors.
We’ve been hearing a lot about the Dreamers lately. These are people who were brought into the United States illegally as children and are eligible for DACA, the Deferred Action for Childhood Arrivals – a program that temporarily shields some young immigrants from deportation, and allows them to work legally. President Trump ordered an end to DACA back in September, putting 800,000 Dreamers in limbo. In the midst of all the political posturing concerning Dreamers, it’s tough to remember that the vast majority of them are simply people who have spent most of their lives in our country and love it dearly. Today we’re joined by two of them. Lizzette Arias is the Executive Director of the Dream Project, an Arlington-based non-profit that provides scholarships, mentoring, and advocacy for Dreamers; and Selena Caceres, a Yorktown High School student and Dream Project mentee. They join us to share their personal Dreamer stories, and their reactions to events on Capitol Hill.
Tonight we’re talking about forgiveness – more specifically, self-forgiveness. We’re joined by Reverend Dr. Michael Barry, the former Director of Pastoral Care at the Cancer Treatment Centers of America (CTCA) in Philadelphia, and the author of four books including The Forgiveness Project. Michael joins us to talk about what he learned at CTCA, and in other work and research he’s done; the relationship between self-forgiveness and narcissism; and the book he’s currently co-authoring entitled Forgiveness of Self.
Tonight we feature a love story. But it’s not your typical Valentine’s Day tale. It’s a story of marriage, alcoholism, separation, jail, restoration, and terminal cancer – across the span of 30 years. We’re joined by Lee Self, a former high tech executive who now facilitates CEO peer learning groups. Lee joins us to talk about the effect of her husband’s alcoholism on her family, and the fundamental lessons she and her loved ones learned from it.
On the morning of September 16, 2013, tonight’s guest encountered the Washington Navy Yard shooter in a stairwell and was shot at close range. Just before Aaron Alexis pulled the trigger, Jennifer Bennett felt a sense of peace and love as she stared into Aaron’s eyes. Twelve people were killed by the shooter that day, and he himself died in an exchange of gunfire with police. Somehow Jennifer survived. She joins us to talk about her experiences that day, how they transformed her life, and the profound insights she has gained into the importance of really “seeing” others and of boldly honoring our God-given purpose.